Is my kitty being a dominant male, or a playful kitten?

by Roberta D.
(Douglas, AK)

My 5 month old Chocolate Point Finn and I just moved in with a friend. She has two dogs and a cat. When her cat, Zilla is in the house, Finn follows her around and sniffs and meows. Zilla hisses and growls. My roommate thinks that he is trying to dominate her, and is really FLIPPING out whenever my kitty-boy leaves our room. When Zilla is in her room, Finn goes to the door and makes the sweetest meow and sits there. I truly think he's playing and wants to be friends. Because when I bring him to another friends house, he plays with their two 2year old cats just fine. Zilla is about 4, Finn is 5 months. She doesn't want to play with him, we can tell. How can we get them to get along? I'm only staying here for a few months. Finns getting neutered this week...but what do I do about my roommate and her flipping out over her cat? I mean, she thinks Zilla will run away and is stress-eating. When I say flipping out, my roommate seems to have a harder time with the two cats then they do with each other. She also separates them immediately. Never letting nature run its course, and she swears she's a cat expert. I just want harmony for the next three months. We only need to make it three months. And this fist week has been LONG. Any advice is welcome!!!!

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Sep 13, 2012
 give and take
by: Roberta

She's my friend and doing me a favor to let me stay and I don't want to ruin the friendship. I feel like this is ruining us and its bad. I got Finn when he was 7wks and he's my baby. I would burp him after he ate, because he scarfed it down so fast he'd get hiccups. He's my baby. So I understand how she feels about her cat. But, normal adults should understand the concept of "give and take" and we should be able to work this out more than me just locking my cat up. He's not spraying, nor has he ever. I guess I just have to see how it plays out for the next two weeks. I had a place when I got him, but it was a basement apartment and so moldy I was sick the entire time I lived there. So, my friend is truly doing me a favor by letting me stay this month. I just wish she was more open minded and quite frankly not bi-polar. Oh well. I love my little kitty-boy and it will all work out soon enough!! :-)
Sep 13, 2012
 I also have a male.
by: angelina diantonio

I have a male and female both are fixed. I rescued them at 4 months .So we thought they were a little less and waited a couple months to get them fixed. Both made out great. Neither of mine sprayed anything. Let me tell you you would know. I think your roommate is crazy and looking for excuses to get rid of you and your kitten.By the sound of it you are better off without that friend.
Sep 13, 2012
 I agree 100% !!!
by: angelina diantonio

I did not want to worry you too much before. Your roommate sounds like she will really be horrible in this situation. I would worry about my babies also. Get your own place asap!!!! I think you and your baby will be much better off. Cats sense when they are in trouble and this could make your kitten very nervous to be around this woman. Get out and keep us posted.
Sep 13, 2012
 it's not getting better
by: Roberta

Thank you ladies!! :) He was neutered a week ago. And, yeah...my roommate is making it worse. And we've both decided it's best I leave Oct 1 and not Dec. She swears she smells spray in every corner, but I don't smell it. And there is no way I wouldn't smell it. My scenting is sharp, sharp, sharp. She's just being kind of crazy and I'm truely worried for his safety when I'm not home. He's just got to stay in my room and I'll have to take him outside on walks during my lunch hour and when I'm home. I just feel so bad to leave him locked up, because he's a leaper. I feel like a bad kitty-mama when I close the door and he wines until I leave and probably after too. I'm just going to bring him out with me as much as possible. He loves car rides and going to see his two kitty-friends...
Sep 13, 2012
 Let nature take its course !
by: angelina diantonio

I agree this could take awhile. If they do not get along and it is only for a short time keep them seperate.I am not sure. It sounds like your roomate will make things worse. Good luck and keep us posted.
Sep 13, 2012
 Let nature take its course !
by: angelina diantonio

I agree this could take awhile. If they do not get along and it is only for a short time keep them seperate.I am not sure. It sounds like your roomate will make things worse. Good luck and keep us posted.
Sep 13, 2012
 PLayful kitten
by: Beatrice

Hi there,

I don't think you are going to resolve this in three months, when I brought my Siamese female at 3 months home, my male Burmese nearly went mad altogether, he hated her and was desperately unhappy for about 6 months. Slowly and surely with me constantly rubbing him and cuddling him and telling him that he was still "no 1" he calmed down and now they get on great. Zilla feels threatened, after all it's her house and Finn is the interloper. Zilla doesn't know that you are only going to be there for 3 months, she thinks you have moved in! So the owner of Zilla needs to desperately re-assure her cat that she is still no. 1 in her eyes! Try and keep them separate if you can, ( I know it's not easy in a small place) Sorry I can't be more help but with cats and territory, nobody is a winner.

Beatrice from Ireland.

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